Motorola Droid X :: Hands Free Car Bluetooth Not Working On 2.3.3?

I own a two DroidX's and for the last 3 months I have been experiencing an issue with my hands free in car bluetooth(infiniti G37). This all started right after I updated to 2.3.3 Gingerbread. The GB update killed the bluetooth on my car. Apparently it has been happening to many Nissan owners. I never had an issue with FROYO why am I having an issue with GB?

Issue:

I pair the phone with my car. it pairs properly. the car picks up the phone and the phone picks up the car. The bluetooth connnects with no issues. While connected, I recieve a call the phone rings (sound comes out of the handset not the car speakers its supposed to ring through the speakers), the radio stops playing and the screen reads incoming call, but when I picking no audio comes out of the speakers. The phone says its connected, the car says its connected, but no audio is coming out of the speakers, audio is coming out of the handset only. It happened to both DRoidX's after the GB update.

Here's what I've done:

Contacted VZ wireless- they werent aware of the issue but plan to come up with a fix(that was three months ago and no fix available)

Reset the phone and it stays with 2.3.3 and still doesnt fix the issue. Tried a regular head set bluetooth(Jabra) and it works with the phone.I tried my wife's phone (Droid X with 2.2.2 Froyo), it worked on the car until recently(first week of Oct 2011) when the GB update was pushed.

I contacted Motorola and one rep says they have noted the issue and its being worked, another guy said he hasnt heard of the issue and that its probably my car, the third rep told me they are working the issue and to take my car to the dealer and have the security settings unlocked. I took my car to the infiniti dealer, they looked it over and said no issues with the car, the phone is the culprit.